Dear Future Husband

As you know I'm an actor and most of my work is in the theatre, so that means the horrendous tech week...

At the moment I'm in a dressing room in the middle of tech week and it dawned on me I should probably explain tech week to you so that you will understand why you will not see for about a week.

Tech week is the week before an audience comes in and sees our show, so its the week where we try and put lights,sound and costumes together. In short its a living nightmare.

Its 12 hours everyday, 12 hours of stopping and starting and sitting around.....so you see this does not make for a happy human.

I will leave home early and come home late, you will hardly see me. I also will be non responsive to emails, texts and calls because my brain will be focused on the show, if you manage to have one coherent conversation with me during tech week , you should count yourself VERY LUCKY.

So beware you will have to enjoy your own company, sort out your own meals and basically just take care of yourself.

My advice go out and play golf, go visit with friends,think of it as your boys week....my careers gift to you ;-)

Sincerely,
Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I feel the need to warn you that the neighbours will be talking about us….no, not because of THAT ;-)

As you know I’m an actor, so obviously my job requires me to leave home in the late afternoon and then return late at night or if I’m going to a casting really early in the morning.

It has been my experience that I leave home in a casual outfit with no make-up and flat shoes, but I somehow always return in a different outfit, wearing make-up and Heels………and yes the neighbours do talk!

I live in the suburbs and whenever I leave I can always see “Mrs Smith” peering out of her window, just longing to know what I’m getting up too.

But rest assured my darling, the men on the street will love you and the woman will worry about you so they’ll fuss over you, so basically it’s a win-win for you.

Don’t worry about me,  I’m used to it I can deal with it, I just didn’t want you to be alarmed when we’re suddenly the talk of the street….However since I’m not really a “Suburbs” kinda gal, maybe we should just live in the city where the doorman will be the only yenta around?…….

Sincerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

Like I’ve said in my previous letters I am an actress which means I’m quite a creative person.

I like to write,often the writing bug will bite and then I will need to be left alone with my thoughts and my writing utensils.

I find that I write better when I can see the mountain or the sea,even better when I can see them both (see letter about Noordhoek house),so when the writing bug does bite,I like to get away and just write,I’m just going to go ahead and suggest that we buy a house in the mountains somewhere or by the sea,where I can escape to when the writing bug does bite.

I’m not sure how often the bug will bite it varies but I think a small little cottage somewhere away from the city limits would be ideal.

Give it a thought.

Sincerely,
Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I think its important that you know what you’re getting yourself into.

I’m an actress,that means that I will be working long and awkward hours. I will not always be home to tuck you in,or to feed you. I won’t always be home to kiss you awake in the morning.

I feel that its essential you know this from the beginning,so that we don’t run into problems in the future.

Your understanding in this regard is most appreciated.

Sincerely 
Tarryn